I’m Matthew Long

Performance Coach

Ready to boost your performance in relationships, career & life?

Relationship Coaching

We don’t always show up as our best selves, even in our most important relationships. As a divorce attorney, I saw the immense pain and loss experienced when couples were unable to meet those challenges. I coach people to be their best while learning how to meet their own needs and the needs of their partner.

Finding Your Path

Are you unfulfilled by your career, relationships, or life in general? Sorting out your own desires and responsibilities can be a long and winding road. Let me guide you in finding a shorter path to greater fulfillment in your relationship, personally, professionally, and spiritually
How long will you wait before you take action?

The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago.

The second-best time is right now!

If you are unsatisfied with your relationships, your career, or the path that your life is taking, there is no better time to take action than right now. Work with me in a partnership that is open, inquisitive, and challenging so that you are empowered to live the life you want and deserve. Don’t let fear or complacency rob you of a fulfilling relationship, a career that lights you up, or a life well lived.

Is your intimate relationship bringing you joy?

Are you afraid of change, but disappointed with yourself and your partner?

Are you being the best parent possible? Or could you do better?

Does your work light you up?

Are you living a life of service and meaning?

Relationship Coaching

The path to a loving, joyous and fulfilling relationship does not need to be mystery.

Finding Your Purpose

A life of purpose is a life of joy

Parenting A Troubled Child

Finding the strength to do the right thing

Coaching Men

Finding the path forward in a world of evolving expectations

What Is Life Coaching?
Who is Coaching For?

Coaching is a partnership that is open, inquisitive, and challenging so that you are empowered to create the results you want. Any challenge you set your sights on can benefit from coaching. However, I am especially passionate about helping people be their best selves in their relationships. Having been involved in men’s work since 2013, I am also excited about helping men who are struggling to find their role in life, and in particular struggling to understand what is expected of them by the world and their partners. Coaching is for anyone who is committed to a journey to wholeness and happiness.
Healing and enriching intimate relationships.
Empowering men to live a life of joy and satisfaction
Exploring your purpose.
Parenting a troubled child – alone or as co-parents

About Matthew


As a divorce & custody for over 30 years, I’ve watched countless people, including myself, go through the anguish of ending their relationship. I’ve seen people get caught up in the rush of life, career, children, bills, etc., while their relationship with their partner and/or children suffer. They want to repair, but don’t know where or how to begin. Often times, these same people aren’t clear of their own needs, resulting in a vague emptiness.  I learned the hard way that discovering your best self is the foundation of a fulfilling relationship with yourself and others.  I’m ready to make that process easier for you.

“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it.

Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”

Howard Thurman

Find a vision, state your intentions, take action, assess without judgment, and celebrate your victories.  Rinse & Repeat.

It starts with your vision. You can’t get to your destination if you don’t know where you are going. Being empowered also requires setting a clear intention. Do you intend to live the life you want or are you going to stay safe and just dream about it? And setting an intention must be followed up by committed action. It is only when we take action that we learn what we really want, what gets in our way, what works for us, what doesn’t, and how it feels to push past our fears. If beating ourselves up for what we didn’t accomplished was a successful strategy most of us would have fulfilled our dreams long ago. But change happens, and dreams are fulfilled, when we examine without judgment what is happening for us when we don’t act in accordance with our intentions.

To fulfill our dreams, we learn, we adjust, we let go of what we didn’t accomplish, and then we celebrate our victories. Each of these powerful steps are far more impactful when you get coaching that helps you to clearly see your vision, set your intentions, hold your accountable and reflect back to you in a non-judgmental way what your choices look like, and encourage you to celebrate your victories.

Don’t Wait Any Longer. Start Forging Your Own Path Today!